Why many relationships fail: Is Love Worth it?

Do you know why many marriages, relationships, and friendships break down? I will tell you…

When someone you love hurts you, my dear reader, it is more painful than death ☠️! See, in this life, when someone you care for, someone you have sacrificed for, someone you have spent quality time with betrays your trust, stabs you in the back, hurts you, it is bitter than gall and quinine 🤢…

In their innocence, love and trust are so sweet and comforting. In their betrayal, they are worse than death! They sting so painfully and deeply, reaching into the depths of your very soul!

Nothing hurts than that! That is why many people go mad, take their lives, or just break up from friends, spouses, or relationships…

Why do these effects happen to those hurt by their loved ones?

There are at least three (3) reasons:

1. Some feel victimized and become consumed by self-pity.

They dwell so much on how bad life is treating them and become so depressed, confused, bitter, unhappy, and hopeless. They feel like they cannot trust anyone again and give up on life. Their tears and depression cloud everything around them. For such “victims,” life is all darkness and pain. They begin to harbour thoughts of suicide. They can end up taking their lives or go into psychological paranoia, trauma, chronic depression, or even lose their reason…

Only God knows the harm that has been caused by love. It is so unsuspecting and silent that it hits when you least expect it. It hits so hard because it is from someone you trusted and loved. When it strikes, death is almost a welcome bliss and a sweet repose!

2. Some become consumed by rage and insatiable thirst for swift revenge.

Yes, some people are so determined to punish their offenders that they harbour evil thoughts of killing them, spitting into their food, putting menstrual blood into their food, taking them to a fetish priest to charm or hurt them, etc…

The desire for revenge can so mask your reason that you lose common sense, self-control, and mercy. You wish for the worst for the person.

Many people are in jail because of this. They ended up killing their partners. Butchering them to death. Others too die in their attempt to exact revenge: they can get accidents or be knocked down by a car because their minds are so filled with rage that they see and hear nothing.

Betrayed by love, many take their lives. Others lose their minds. Those who survive, carry scars that can hardly ever be healed.

In their anger, they can also spit the most painful words and insults. Indeed, the relationship can turn into a protracted war where each person plans, plots, and executes evil against the other until one dies or become maimed…

When anger consumes you, it seizes and envelopes your whole being…it can give you stroke, heart attack, trauma, epilepsy, hypertension, and a lot of diseases…it can make you lose your reason…

3. Some just walk away with pain…

A pain that leaves a permanent mark on their souls. A mark that affects their subsequent relationships. Having been deceived or disappointed before, they guide their hearts against falling deeply into trust and love again. They are afraid of becoming vulnerable again. Hence, if they ever enter again into another relationship, these victims become hardened, suspicious of everything, paranoid, overly careful, and difficult to please. This affects their future relationships and can even threaten it.

Many a soul have been destroyed by friends, family, partners, and loved ones. They become so devastated and shocked. The trauma they go through affects their mental and physical health; few come out whole.

In the three scenarios described above, the person who has been hurt hurts himself/herself further by brooding over his/her victimhood or harbouring vengeance.

You will therefore agree with me that the three approaches described above are not the best for any human being. It only makes you a talkative, a psychopath, paranoid, doubting, and a den of mental and cardiovascular diseases…

If you have been hurt by a trusted or loved one, don’t dwell on the hurt; don’t be consumed by rage. Better forgive for your own mental and physical health’s sake.

So, what should someone who has been hurt by a loved one do? You may ask…

There’s no better solution to being hurt than forgiveness. When someone you love hurts you, don’t dwell on it, or it will affect your mind and heart. It will make you wicked, bitter, and heartless… look at the bright side my love.

Instead of thinking of the evil done to you, think of the good things s/he has done for you. Think of the good times. As you dwell on the good and positive things of your partner or loved one, the evils they have done you will immediately begin to disappear from your view. The pain will melt away… The anger, vengeance, victimhood, bitterness, sorrow, tears, remorse…, will dissipate from your thoughts 💭 and heart….

Dear lovely reader, always look at the bright side of life. Don’t be consumed by disappointment, rage, anger, thirst for vengeance, remorse, or victimization. As you think of the good things s/he did, the bitterness will dissipate from your soul, and you’ll be at peace.

Love will replace anger. Mercy will replace vengeance. Kindness will replace evil thoughts. Patience will replace recklessness. Peace will replace your troubled, turbulent, and darkened heart and thoughts. Calmness will return to your soul, and you shall save your mind and heart from many a disease…

There’s no better medicine for the heart and mind than forgiveness. Oh, dear reader, are you hurt and angry? Are you betrayed and feel so victimized and depressed? Are you broken and shattered from a broken heart 💔? Look at the bright side. Look at the cross. Think of good things. Dwell on kindness and mercy. Seek no vengeance. Let it go. It will be marrow to your bones 🩻. It will be healing to your broken 💔 heart and clouded thoughts…

Look at the bright side 🕯️